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Why Men Love Dirty Talk

Michael Fiore 12-17

Why Men Love Dirty TalkWe’re going to talk about DIRTY talk… WHY do guys love dirty talk so much?

Theresa asks…

“Mike, I really need your help! I’ve been with this awesome guy for like 6 weeks now and it’s been hot and wonderful and he’s really great but . . . he keeps trying to get me to talk DIRTY to him and I DO NOT know what to do!

Seriously! He’ll send me little texts during the day, or say something really inappropriate while we’re having dinner at a fancy place or he’ll even want me to talk WHILE we’re having sex . . .

And EVERY time I feel like I’m choking and I get embarrassed and I don’t know what to say and I just feel SILLY.

I’m not a prude or anything I just feel super-awkward.

Why do guys like it when a girl talks dirty?

And what the heck do I say??!”

~ Theresa

Hey Theresa

Ahh, dirty talk. The nuclear device in the battle of the sexes. Seriously, I’ve had a bunch of women who bought my Text The Romance Back program say that the “Digital Foreplay” section alone was enough to make a guy quiver, shake and BEG to be monogamous.

So, let’s answer your question in handy dandy bullet-point format…

WHY do guys like when a girl “Talks dirty” to him?

If you’ve read Text The Romance Back (or pretty much anything else I’ve written) you should already know that men only have ONE erogenous zone that actually matters…

It’s not his cucumber (that’s a euphemism,) it’s not his nipples, it’s not even that one little piece of particularly sensitive skin right in the V of his hip . . .

Nope . . .

The only erogenous zone that matters on a guy is his MIND . . . his IMAGINATION.

Did you know there’s actually been some research that claims to show that on a purely-physical level women enjoy sex a LOT more than men do?

It’s true (and it’s not just the multiple climaxes thing. Personally I think a lot of the reasons guys don’t get the same physical thrill out of sex women do is because guys are so uptight about their own bodies and their own pleasure, but whatever.)

So if guys don’t get as much physical verve out of sex as you do, why the heck do they want it so much?

Here’s a couple reasons:

1. Testosterone doesn’t just make you grow hair on your chest it also turns you all wolfish and desperate to mate with as many women as possible.

Seriously, if a guy – or a woman’s- libido isn’t where it should be the first thing you should look into is testosterone levels.

2. The psychological high of giving a woman pleasure is absolutely INTOXICATING to men.

Even though most men don’t actually want to do the work to make women feel really good. More on this in a second. Being desired, praised and seen as a desirable man who almost-magically turned you into a quivering ball of post-coital pleasure pudding is actually MORE important to a man than his own orgasm.

Seriously, As a guy having an orgasm is incredibly easy – we’re all really good at doing that all by ourselves.

3. Dirty talk, when done right.

Shows that you’re engaged in what’s going on, that you’re interested in his pleasure as well as yours and taps into the deep, primal images he’s got running through his head 24 hours a day.

In other words, it makes him focus on YOU instead of on the hot girl he saw at the coffee store today.

So, What Do You Say?

OK, this is a WAY bigger topic than I can cover in detail here.

I talk about some of this in Text The Romance Back and Felicity Keith is working on an incredible program for you called “The Language Of Desire: Dirty Words To Make Him Yours” RIGHT NOW . . .

But here’s the basics:

Most women totally mess dirty talk up because they try to treat MEN like they’re WOMEN.

Seriously, when I teach GUYS to talk dirty to women I focus on turning up the heat slowly, using techniques from romance novels, engaging the emotions etc. etc.

And to some degree that works on guys too . . .

BUT . . .

The number one thing you need to understand to talk dirty to a man is . . .

Every Guy’s Totally Silly Dream…

If you’ve ever watched any “videos on the internet” made for guys at all (and you should. It’s good research even if it’s not the kind of thing that turns you on) you’ll see one thing over and over and over again…

The guy turns the woman on without doing any work at all.

Yes, it’s silly, but deep in our little hearts most men harbor a longing to be seen as so sexy and powerful and dominant and MASCULINE that he turns you into his own personal love-machine just by being HIM . . .

So…

On a very basic level if you want to talk dirty to a guy all you have to do is:

1. Talk about his cucumber.

Men love their cucumbers and we want you to love them too. Tell him that you’ve been thinking about his cucumber all day. Let him see you looking at his cucumber. Seriously. Yes, it’s awkward but he WANTS you to objectify him.

2. Talk about the EFFECT he has on you.

And how much he turns you on (I explain this in detail in Text The Romance Back) . . .

Remember: So much of a man’s desire is wrapped up in his ability to give a woman pleasure – preferably without doing any work. (Yes, I know this is silly, but dirty talk isn’t about reality. It’s about his imagination. And if you fulfill a guy’s dream he’ll work overtime to fulfill yours.)

3. If you want more specifics (like, step-by-step) while you’re go get “Text The Romance Back

Whew!

Is it hot in here?

Seriously, talk about dirty talk without using dirty words is like describing the sky without ever being able to say it’s “Blue.”


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